Honestly, I Just Want to Get Married

Okay, seriously, I want to get married.

I'm tired of telling people that I'm "content with being single." Yes, I really am content & very at peace with where God has placed me in my life. I love being single! I love being able to spend my own money, do whatever I want on my day off, fly to So-Cal or Bora-Bora spontaneously & not have to "check" with someone first. It's all great!

But, here's the thing with being a single Christian in America today. When you're single, people expect you to say, "Yay! I'm single & I love it!" It's so taboo to be honest with people & say "I have a strong desire to get married someday & I want that day to come soon!" I don't want to kiss dating goodbye or be at ease with my singleness. It's healthy to be somewhat uncomfortable with singleness. It almost means that your desire didn't go away. With discomfort, apathy has no room to enter in. There's still emotion there. So, thank you Joshua Harris, I get the point. But, why do I have to compromise my desire for marriage in order to be a content Christian? I'm content! I'm at peace! I just want to be married. There's a difference here...

The difference is this: I want to get married someday. I'm not going to lower my expectations or standards for my future husband in order to achieve this desire right now. I'm willing to be patient. But, the want doesn't dissapear with waiting. In fact, waiting kind of makes the want even stronger.

So, my advice is this: For all of us who are single, we need to own it! Take pride in being this lost breed of content & at peace singles! There are so many discouraged, irritated, & uneasy single people who don't understand that marriage is like a fine wine or a stinky cheese. Reward comes from the waiting. It's okay to say "I want to get married". Because, it's better to be honest rather than lying to yourself.