Saturday, July 25, 2009

The Passions of My Heart

I feel like my heart is split. Like, my soul is telling me that I should go in one direction with my life & the other is telling me to go another.

I signed my Call Papers yesterday. Of course, I haven't had a chance to actually stick them in the mail yet, but I signed them! That's one step ahead of where I was a week ago...But, now the thoughts of "settling down" & whether or not I could be at St. Matthew forever is creeping into my mind. I know it's highly unlikely that I'll stay at St. Matthew forever, but I could potentially be there for a while. But, when is enough? 5 years? 10 years? When could I leave? Would I want to leave? Living in Suburbia isn't the ideal, but the ministry here is awesome.

So, I'm left with two different hearts beating in my chest.

Heart #1 wants to be free. I want to be nomadic & travel the world, see everything before picking a spot & staying for a while. I want to feel what it's like to live in the wilderness, the city, the country. I want to move to New York or Chicago or Seattle. Ministry would be so different there. So urban. What would life be like if I could move every year? Maybe even go back to college? Something other than Starbucks, Targets & McDonalds.

Heart #2 loves this ministry at St. Matt. The youth are awesome, the church is a family & my volunteers care about ministry & getting involved! In the year that I've been here, I've seen numerical & spiritual growth. God is blessing this church & ministry & I want to be able to see the fruition of my labor. Of course, this can't happen unless I stay for a few years. Maybe I'd be willing to do that??? Stay 5 years. 10 years? If this is where God wants me to be, then I should be here. If there's ministry to be done & I can do it "successfully" then I should stay.

Right?

I think the whole issue here is the fact that this is the first time in my life where there's no deadline or ending date. Before this point in my life, I always had an expiration date: high school - 4 years, college - 4 years, Internship - 1 year. So, now what? When is the expiration now? It unnerves me to think of the possibility that there is no deadline. I could be here 1 year or 5 years.

So, what's the plan, Stan? Well, of course I'm staying. I love my youth & for the time being, I don't mind staying here. In fact, it's kind of growing on me. I guess the rest will just be addressed later. . . We'll cross that bridge when we get there!

As far as the hearts go. . . Maybe it's good that I have several heart beats? It keeps me grounded & rooted. When we get comfortable, that's when we stop growing, right? God wants me to grow right now & that's what I'll be doing!

Thursday, July 23, 2009

Internet Monk: My Prediction

A friend of mine forwarded this Blog to me & I thought it was an interesting read. What do you think?


My Prediction: The Coming Evangelical Collapse (1)

January 27, 2009 by iMonk

I’m not a Prophet or a Prophet’s Son. I can’t see the future. I’m usually wrong. I’m known for over-reacting. I have no statistics. You probably shouldn’t read this. The “Gracious God” post depressed me.

Part 1: The Coming Evangelical Collapse, and Why It Is Going to Happen
Part 2: What Will Be Left When Evangelicalism Collapses?
Part 3: Is This A Good Thing?

My Prediction

I believe that we are on the verge- within 10 years- of a major collapse of evangelical Christianity; a collapse that will follow the deterioration of the mainline Protestant world and that will fundamentally alter the religious and cultural environment in the West. I believe this evangelical collapse will happen with astonishing statistical speed; that within two generations of where we are now evangelicalism will be a house deserted of half its current occupants, leaving in its wake nothing that can revitalize evangelicals to their former “glory.”

The party is almost over for evangelicals; a party that’s been going strong since the beginning of the “Protestant” 20th century. We are soon going to be living in a very secular and religiously antagonistic 21st century in a culture that will be between 25-30% non-religious.

This collapse, will, I believe, herald the arrival of an anti-Christian chapter of the post-Christian west and will change the way tens of millions of people see the entire realm of religion. Intolerance of Christianity will rise to levels many of us have not believed possible in our lifetimes, and public policy will become particularly hostile towards evangelical Christianity, increasingly seeing it as the opponent of the good of individuals and society.

The response of evangelicals to this new environment will be a revisiting of the same rhetoric and reactions we’ve seen since the beginnings of the current culture war in the 1980s. The difference will be that millions of evangelicals will quit: quit their churches, quit their adherence to evangelical distinctives and quit resisting the rising tide of the culture.

Many who will leave evangelicalism will leave for no religious affiliation at all. Others will leave for an atheistic or agnostic secularism, with a strong personal rejection of Christian belief and Christian influence. Many of our children and grandchildren are going to abandon ship, and many will do so saying “good riddance.”

This collapse will cause the end of thousands of ministries. The high profile of Christian media will be reduced, if not eliminated. Hundreds of thousands of students, pastors, religious workers, missionaries and persons employed by ministries and churches will be unemployed or employed elsewhere. [ ]. Visible, active evangelical ministries will be reduced to a small percentage of their current size and effort.

Nothing will reanimate evangelicalism to its previous levels of size and influence. The end of evangelicalism as we know it is close; far closer than most of us will admit.

My prediction has nothing to do with a loss of eschatological optimism. Far from it. I’m convinced the grace and mission of God will reach to the ends of the earth. But I am not optimistic about evangelicalism, and I do not believe any of the apparently lively forms of evangelicalism today are going to be the answer. In fact, one dimension of this collapse, as I will deal with in the next post, is the bizarre scenario of what will remain when evangelicals have gone into decline.

I fully expect that my children, before they are 40, will see evangelicalism at far less than half its current size and rapidly declining. They will see a very, very different culture as far as evangelicalism is concerned.

I hope someone is going to start preparing for what is going to be an evangelical dark age.

Why Is This Going To Happen?

1) Evangelicals have identified their movement with the culture war and with political conservatism. This was a mistake that will have brutal consequences. They are not only going to suffer in losing causes, they will be blamed as the primary movers of those causes. Evangelicals will become synonymous with those who oppose the direction of the culture in the next several decades. That opposition will be increasingly viewed as a threat, and there will be increasing pressure to consider evangelicals bad for America, bad for education, bad for children and bad for society.

The investment of evangelicals in the culture war will prove out to be one of the most costly mistakes in our history. The coming evangelical collapse will come about, largely, because our investment in moral, social and political issues has depleted our resources and exposed our weaknesses. We’re going to find out that being against gay marriage and rhetorically pro-life (yes, that’s what I said) will not make up for the fact that massive majorities of evangelicals can’t articulate the Gospel with any coherence and are believing in a cause more than a faith.

2) Evangelicals have failed to pass on to our young people the evangelical Christian faith in an orthodox form that can take root and survive the secular onslaught. In what must be the most ironic of all possible factors, an evangelical culture that has spent billions of youth ministers, Christian music, Christian publishing and Christian media has produced an entire burgeoning culture of young Christians who know next to nothing about their own faith except how they feel about it. Our young people have deep beliefs about the culture war, but do not know why they should obey scripture, the essentials of theology or the experience of spiritual discipline and community. Coming generations of Christians are going to be monumentally ignorant and unprepared for culture-wide pressures that they will endure.

Do not be deceived by conferences or movements that are theological in nature. These are a tiny minority of evangelicalism. A strong core of evangelical beliefs is not present in most of our young people, and will be less present in the future. This loss of “the core” has been at work for some time, and the fruit of this vacancy is about to become obvious.

3) Evangelical churches have now passed into a three part chapter: 1) mega-churches that are consumer driven, 2) churches that are dying and 3) new churches that whose future is dependent on a large number of factors. I believe most of these new churches will fail, and the ones that do survive will not be able to continue evangelicalism at anything resembling its current influence. Denominations will shrink, even vanish, while fewer and fewer evangelical churches will survive and thrive.

Our numbers, our churches and our influence are going to dramatically decrease in the next 10-15 years. And they will be replaced by an evangelical landscape that will be chaotic and largely irrelevant.

4) Despite some very successful developments in the last 25 years, Christian education has not produced a product that can hold the line in the rising tide of secularism. The ingrown, self-evaluated ghetto of evangelicalism has used its educational system primarily to staff its own needs and talk to itself. I believe Christian schools always have a mission in our culture, but I am skeptical that they can produce any sort of effect that will make any difference. Millions of Christian school graduates are going to walk away from the faith and the church.

There are many outstanding schools and outstanding graduates, but as I have said before, these are going to be the exceptions that won’t alter the coming reality. Christian schools are going to suffer greatly in this collapse.

5) The deterioration and collapse of the evangelical core will eventually weaken the missional-compassionate work of the evangelical movement. The inevitable confrontation between cultural secularism and the religious faith at the core of evangelical efforts to “do good” is rapidly approaching. We will soon see that the good evangelicals want to do will be viewed as bad by so many, that much of that work will not be done. Look for evangelical ministries to take on a less and less distinctively Christian face in order to survive.

6) Much of this collapse will come in areas of the country where evangelicals imagine themselves strong. In actual fact, the historic loyalties of the Bible belt will soon be replaced by a de-church culture where religion has meaning as history, not as a vital reality. At the core of this collapse will be the inability to pass on, to our children, a vital evangelical confidence in the Bible and the importance of the faith.

7) A major aspect of this collapse will happen because money will not be flowing towards evangelicalism in the same way as before. The passing of the denominationally loyal, very generous “greatest generation” and the arrival of the Boomers as the backbone of evangelicalism will signal a major shift in evangelical finances, and that shift will continue into a steep drop and the inevitable results for schools, churches, missions, ministries and salaries.

Next: What Will Be Left?

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

A Stranger's Funeral

Recently, I sang at a stranger's funeral.

This woman, Grace Hansen, passed away. Her family attends my church & wanted a nice touch to the funeral Monday morning, so they asked me to sing & I happily obliged. This wasn't very strange since I've been asked to sing at random events by random strangers before: a few weddings, a memorial service, someone's birthday party (weird). However, I've never been asked to sing at an actual funeral before, especially by a family who I'm not very close with. In fact, I don't think I've ever really met them before this week.

Monday Morning.

Attending a funeral brings up all kinds of questions, especially the question of what to wear. After sifting through my closet a hundred times & failing to find something new, I settled on a black & white "number" that I haven't worn for a while. Strange how one event can cause so many wardrobe changes (this is true for weddings, first dates, Graduation, etc).

I arrived at church about 2 hours before the funeral started, just to make sure I had time to practice, set up my microphone & spiritually & emotionally prepare myself. The last time I had been to a funeral was January, 1994.

My Grandpa died.

It was sad.

What I had not realized while walking into the Sanctuary that day was that funerals generally have dead bodies present. So, here I am, walking sprightly into the room like it was Sunday morning. I quickly found myself face-to-face with a cold Mrs. Hansen and halted abruptly in my steady pace.

I freaked out.

My pastor caught me off-guard & I quickly exited the room, explaining the urgent need for a coffee run.

I went to Starbucks & stayed there for about an hour. No book. No list of phone calls I needed to make. Just me & my thoughts of Grace Hansen taking an eternal nap in the front of my church. I finally mustered up the courage to head back. Specifically because the service was to start in 15 minutes. Fortunately, when I got back to church, Grace was tucked away in her casket, lid closed.

The Funeral.

When Grace Hansen was alive, we weren't friends. Even though she was a member of my congregation, her wry mind, battered with Alzheimer's, was not able to function outside of the Hospice she was living in. Her husband, Gene, sang the "Alleluia Chorus" with me this past Christmas & I was reminded of his Tenor voice as "Beautiful Savior" started to play on our synthetic, electric organ. He too, was a distant acquaintance whose face I barely recognized.

As the funeral service pressed on, & my discomfort of being in the same room as the deceased Mrs. Hansen drifted away, I felt like I was growing closer to the woman who was inside the Mahogany box in front of me. Grace was a mother, a sister, a wife & friend. She grew up in El Salvador & moved to the United States as a young, naive 16 year old. 1948 brought her American citizenship, only a few months after moving here. She met her husband, Gene at a dance & they were married only 2 months later. She left behind 4 beautiful children, 11 grandchildren & 17 great-grandchildren, most of whom will never know their great-grandmother.

The service held stories of years passed where Grace offered her children & grandchildren, neighbors & friends unconditional love that reflected that of Christ's. I sang "Amazing Grace" & "Jesus Loves Me", which left no dry eye untouched by tears.

As I sat in my chair, listening to story after story, I felt a pang of disappointment. This woman, Grace Hansen was the epitome of motherly love & devotion. She not only cared for her husband & family, but she lifted up their friends as well. Most of the people spoke of the Agape relationship she had with her husband, Gene, offering countless examples of what a true marriage looks like in a world where divorce is a commonality amongst most. She exuded the love of Christ to all who knew her, being confident in her identity in her Creator & passing that on to her children. Yet, I never knew her. Here I am, privileged enough to be invited to such an emotional, personal event, yet I had no personal relationship with her on this earth. Fortunately, I'll have eternity to get to know this amazing woman of God.

Life is Short.

Funerals & Weddings are very much the same. People dressed up for a special event. Music playing in the background of hushed whispers & quiet murmurs of people waiting for the service to start. Flowers for an occasion. A procession of family members & special friends. A ceremony that includes encouragement, comfort & stories. A light lunch. . . with cake.

What happens in the middle of the two? Wedding. Funeral. What do you fill your life with?

Making money. Building an Empire. Making babies. Building a family.

You blink & it's over.

Most of the decisions I make are less thought out & more emotionally driven, which produces countless "Kelsey, you should not have said or done thats!" and "If onlys. . ." Yes, I may have my foot eternally stuck in my mouth, but I would hate to have regrets. At my funeral, I don't want people to say, "If only. . ."

No regrets!

The question still remains: What will it look like?

Did Grace Hansen know she would move to America from El Salvador at 16? Did she know she would marry the man who would walk with her through Alzheimer's, until the end? How could she have imagined the amazing plans God had for her?

Same here.

From now until the end of my life, what will it look like? How will God use me? When my life is over, will countless people tell great stories of me at my funeral? Will I be remembered?

After sitting in on a stranger's funeral, I think so.